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How To Attract Love (it’s not a secret) – Just become the type of person you want to attract.

Posted by Catherine Morgan on July 10, 2007

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If You Want To Attract Love, Be A Loving Person — by Catherine Morgan

Did you ever notice that angry people tend to attract other angry people? That greedy people, enjoy the company of other greedy people? Just like we choose to associate with people in our lives that have similar interests as we do, we are also unconsciously choosing people that are putting out that same emotional “frequency” as we do.

So, who cares? Well, you should. That is; if you are interested in “attracting” people into your life that are kind, caring, and loving, and not angry, bitter, and hateful.

It’s all about awareness. If you are attracting negative people into your life, it is most likely that you are putting out negative “energy”, and you are most likely doing that because you are feeling negative “emotions”. If you are aware of that, you can work on putting out more positive energy, by choosing to feel more positive emotions. It is really very simple.

Basically, perception is everything. Ten people will experience the same situation ten different ways. Not because it happened ten different ways, but because they perceived it in ten different ways. Just like the proverbial “glass is half ____”, what? What were you going to say? Full? Empty?

If we walk through life unconsciously, life will come to us the same way. But, if we choose to be conscious of our feelings and emotions, we can help attract the life we want. It isn’t an exact science. But, if you want to attract love into your life, be a loving person, have loving feeling, have loving emotions. Just by being conscious of your feelings and your emotions, you are altering the frequencies you are putting out into the world. So, think about it for a minute. What frequencies were you putting out today? Loving? Kind?

The good thing is, we control our own perceptions. Not much else though, you know how it is, we always feel we have no control over our lives. Well, that is because we really don’t have any control over our lives. However, how we “perceive” our out of control lives, that we do have control over. Not too much of a consolation, you say? Except that we can decide if we are going to be a happy, loving person or an angry, bitter one. That’s a pretty big deal.

Once you decide what type of person you are going to choose to be, then you will know what type of person you will attract into your life. Just like the “frequencies” on a radio, if you want country music, you need to find that frequency. If you want Pop or Rock music, but you keep tuning into the frequency that plays country, well you are going to get _____. Right, country. Once you find the right “emotional” frequency, others with that frequency will be attracted to you.

So, if you want to attract love…..you need to be a loving person. Start by loving yourself, being grateful for the things you have. Once you can do that, start replacing angry or negative emotions, with positive loving emotions. Choose your reactions to life and work and family, in a positive loving way. When the “frequencies” you are putting out change, what you will attract to yourself will also change.

This is a must see video for anyone wanting to attract love, or just be a kinder more loving person. It’s inspirational quotes to the song “Starry, Starry Night”. I love it, I hope you do too.


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24 Responses to “How To Attract Love (it’s not a secret) – Just become the type of person you want to attract.”

  1. That was put beautifully! I’ve always believed something to this extent… The energy you put back in the world is how the world will respond back to you… way before “The Secret” on Oprah came out! You came up in my TagSurfer and I couldn’t help but read… great entry, very clear and inspiring! :) Take care!

  2. Thanks so much for your kind comment about my post. I’m happy you liked it. It’s always nice to get positive feedback, thank you.

    I hope you will TagSurf over again sometime.

  3. liara said

    Your posting makes a lot of sense. I love your image choice. The funny thing is, more people than you might think have not yet learned to align their conscious and subconscious minds. This means you can consciously convince yourself that you’re seeking a loving person when inside you may also be telling yourself that you don’t deserve love. If your intentions are incompatible, then the result is that you will not attract what you think you want. You will attract what your inner self thinks. Part of evolving and getting-to-know yourself will enable you to become more attuned to your self-view so that your conscious thoughts, choices and feelings will be more of what you really want.

  4. axinia said

    A wonderful message, Catherine! And sooooo true. Can only say that all my life is the proof of it.

  5. liliane said

    Catherine, I think I agree with most of those you’ve written. I have to say it’s very inspiring, indeed. However, it would be nice if you would explain why some people who are together but completely different from each other. I don’t mean about appearance, I mean in terms of characteristics. Is it because they are living double-life? e.g. a kind sweet woman is hanging out with a greedy selfish man? Does it mean that there’s a second hidden evil inside of her?

  6. Hi Liara — Thanks for your comment, it is very true.

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    Hi Axinia — Thanks for your comment.

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    Hi Liliane – Thanks so much for your comment. To answer your question, I think there are two reasons a sweet woman may end up with a greedy selfish man (I don’t believe it is because she has evil inside her)…

    First – Comment #3 explains it nicely. If your subconscious is convinced you don’t deserve what you want, or subconsciously you fear what you want, then you will be sending out mixed or wrong signals…and most likely end up with a person totally opposite of what you thought you wanted. That is why you can’t just write down what you want and you will receive it. Your inner belief system needs to align with your desires, and that may take more work for some than others.

    Second – Don’t forget that there are people out there that will purposefully deceive us. They will pretend to be everything you always wanted in your life…but really they are just masters of deception. However, this could also be partly because your subconscious believes it is o.k. for you to be mistreated. Either way, it may be harder to get to the love you really want…But you still can get there.

    I hope that helps.

  7. tobeme said

    It is so true, we do attract what we put out, therefore if you have many angry people in your life, it is wise to assess your level of anger.
    I disagree that we don’t have much control over our life. I think we have the ability to control most if not all of it. Again, like you said, awareness is key.
    Nice video, thanks for sharing.

  8. Thanks “Todeme” — Thanks for your comment…Isn’t that the best video, I love it. Anyway, as far as having control over our lives, what I meant about “not” having control is…

    There are “major” life changing things that are totally out of our control, and how we “react” to these events is the only part that is in our control. Things such as; death of a friend or loved one, major illness of yourself or loved one, loss of a job, divorce, and other things along those lines. Does that make sense?

    Well, that’s just how I feel about it. Thank you so much for commenting on this post, I hope to hear from you again soon.

  9. Hi Catherine,

    I’ve read some of your posts before and this one came in on my Google Alerts this morning.

    You mentioned in your comment to Todeme that a lot of major events are, indeed, out of our control. But what is in our control is how we react to those events. I like to use the word “respond” rather than react, because people have a tendency to “knee-jerk” to too many situations rather than taking time to think through their response.

    When you spoke of a major event like the loss of a loved one, or a divorce, I remembered back when I was just 24 years old and my ex-wife and I got divorced. As a young man, I was totally confused and didn’t know where to turn. As I’ve grown older, I have learned how to deal with emotional situations much better.

    With the death of my father back in December, I grieved, but my “response” was to remember the good things he taught me, and pass on those positive things to others around me. Instead of moaning around all day with a long face, I greeted people with a smile and a Texas sized “Hello!” when I saw them on the street.

    I wasn’t in control of my dad’s life or death, but I was in control how to respond to it.

    Did I grieve? Sure I did. Any normal person would. But I also tried to remember all that he taught me and write it down in a book. It will be my first publication. So all this turned into a positive.

    Another loss I experienced recently was the death of a dear friend who I used to work with. She was killed in an auto accident by a drunk driver. Her death made a lot of people angry at the drunk driver because he’s still alive. While I was saddened by her death, and the loss suffered by her husband and two children, I wasn’t angry with the other driver. I was saddened that a life could become so wasted and depraved and hope he will find repentance while he’s in prison. I may even go visit him.

    I don’t wish him any malice or harm, and I know he has devastated – not only the family of the victim – but his own, by his reckless behaviour.

    Blenda, the lady who was killed in the accident, was loved by a lot of people. And I don’t mean that she was just “well liked”, I mean she was truly loved. She SHOWED people how to love by loving you. I never thought I could love another man’s wife like I loved her, but I did. Not in a romantic way, but like she was my sister.

    She always had a positive, cheerful smile on her face, and if I came in with a “grumpy” look on my face, she would ask, “Oh! Why the long face?” and tilt her head to one side and smile. I couldn’t help but feel better around her and “lighten up”.

    When I went to her funeral, I met a lot of nice people in her church and have come to love a lot of them myself. Now I can understand why she was so loving, and loved so much by others.

    It makes me look back in retrospect and appreciate my dad more. We never realize how much we loved someone, or how much we needed them, until they’re gone.

    By loving, I have “attracted” a very lovely lady in my life and she knows I’ll eat mud pies if she feeds them to me. I love her that much. But I also know she loves me and she wouldn’t feed me mud pies. :)

    Keep up the good work Catherine. I really enjoyed this article.

    Ernest O’Dell
    The Blanco Republic
    Blanco, TX 78606 – USA

  10. “How To Attract Love (it’s not a secret) – Just become the type of person you want to attract.”

    Does this apply to physical traits? I think it might. Back when I met my wife I had rather large man breasts. My wife was, shall we say, blessed, with a similar (but more appropriate on her) feature, go figure. :-) I think you are on to something here.

  11. Hi Ernest —

    Thanks for your kind and thought provoking comment. And for sharing your experiences dealing with loss. I think you are exactly right, I had similar experiences with the loss of my Grandmother, and then later my best friend. But now when I think of either of them I remember all the beautiful times, and how loving each of them were towards me. I feel very lucky to have had them in my life, even if it wasn’t for as long as I would have liked.

    You said…

    “Did I grieve? Sure I did. Any normal person would. But I also tried to remember all that he taught me and write it down in a book. It will be my first publication. So all this turned into a positive.”

    It is so wonderful that you were able to turn something so painful, into such a positive life changing experience.

    Unfortunately, it does seem that many of our greatest lessons in life aren’t realized until after we have been brought to our knees by devastation (and loss) in our lives. But on the other hand, maybe that is the way life was designed (for the purpose of helping us recover from these tragedies in our lives), we are left with blessings that if we choose to see them will help us in our recovery, while also helping us become “more” of who we were meant to be.

    Thanks again for your thoughtful comment.

  12. Hi there “totaltransformation” — As usual, you make me laugh. Thanks for that. :)

  13. Mary said

    Thank you for sharing the video and music of Starry Night. I think everyone should listen and watch this once a day. It would be a beautiful thing for all to carry with them throughout our daily lives and remind us we are all one and we are all great!
    Thanks,
    ~Mary

  14. Thanks Mary. I love the video too. :)

  15. Farzana said

    Dear Catherine,

    I was looking for images of love couples via Google for my visionboard to attract a loving relationship and bumped into this wonderful website of yours :-))!!

    Thank you so much for your answer to Liliane! It was exactly what I needed to hear!!

    I’ve been confused for so long about ‘remembering to love one and all’, because I’m dealing with a similar situation to ‘a loving woman versus a deceiving man’. What confused me was that I didn’t really know where to place this situation within the idea of loving one and all? I didn’t really feel good about the idea that I attracted him just because he’s my mirror to what and how I truly am. It made me doubt my own integrity and sincere effort to be a loving, kind and harmonious person. I thought I needed to love everybody no matter what or how they choose to appear. But at the same time it didn’t really feel right to me having to love this person who mistreats me a lot.

    You wrote:
    “If your subconscious is convinced you don’t deserve what you want, or subconsciously you fear what you want, then you will be sending out mixed or wrong signals…and most likely end up with a person totally opposite of what you thought you wanted. That is why you can’t just write down what you want and you will receive it. Your inner belief system needs to align with your desires, and that may take more work for some than others.

    Second – Don’t forget that there are people out there that will purposefully deceive us. They will pretend to be everything you always wanted in your life…but really they are just masters of deception. However, this could also be partly because your subconscious believes it is o.k. for you to be mistreated. Either way, it may be harder to get to the love you really want…But you still can get there.

    I hope that helps.”

    It sure did! Your explanation makes a lot more sense to me now, thank you so much for this wonderful insight!

    And thank you for this great website, I really love it!!

    Take care!

    Love,
    Farzana
    The Netherlands

  16. susy said

    First – Comment #3 explains it nicely. If your subconscious is convinced you don’t deserve what you want, or subconsciously you fear what you want, then you will be sending out mixed or wrong signals…and most likely end up with a person totally opposite of what you thought you wanted. That is why you can’t just write down what you want and you will receive it. Your inner belief system needs to align with your desires, and that may take more work for some than others.

    That is what´s happening to me!! :| I wan´t something but than i don´t and than i do again… And when i want something and i´m almoast getting it i freze and go away cause i´m scared…

    Any suggestions??

  17. sweety said

    so very truee…thx a lot

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  24. Hello Catherine,

    i just discovered this post when I was doing a simple search on how to attract love. You said it so well here. I believe we do attract the type of people that we are. I really do believe that you do attract positive, kind and caring people into our lives if we are positive, kind and caring. this post gives me inspiration because there is this friend of mine at school that I absolutely adore and love yet, she has a boyfriend. I will never give up loving people because if you do then it wasn’t love to begin with. As I said this is really inspirational and it gives me a reason to keep going! A perfect 10 for this one! Thanks a lot!!!

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