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How To Leave Anger and Loneliness Behind — Choose To Be Happy

Posted by Catherine Morgan on June 13, 2007

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Choosing Happiness — by Catherine Morgan

“Be the change you want to see in the world” Mahatma Gandhi

Are you making significant life decisions from a place of fear or anger? Most of us do. When we make choices and respond to people and situations in our life in reaction to fearful and angry emotions, we are choosing unhappiness. From the little responses and decisions in our life, right up to the big ones. So, who cares? Why does this even matter? I genuinely believe we all want peace in our lives. Peace on earth would be great too. The saying; “Be the change you want to see in the world”, suggests that by making positive changes in our own lives, we contribute to a wave that can flow from us, to our family, to our communities, and to the world. It is such a sweet thought. Even if you don’t believe that minor changes you make in your own life can make a difference in the world, there is no doubt that the way we feel emotionally greatly affects our overall personal happiness. How are you feeling about; love, life, family, your job?

If we all just took a little stock in our daily reactions, and paid attention to our responses and decisions, and most importantly noticed when we are responding from a place of fear or anger. If we did this, we could then choose to take more time before we respond to such things, and think them through a bit more. Why is this important? Well, it’s important because once you realize what you are doing and how it affects your life, you can then take the steps to make changes that bring you to a more happy and peaceful place. When you catch yourself reacting out of fear or anger, take a minute to think about how you would react to the same situation from a place of peace or love. If you can’t do that, at least try to find a “neutral” feeling and respond from there. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying this is an easy thing to do. It is by far, the harder thing to do. But, just try it. Start out by choosing one aspect of your life (ie: work, family, husband, etc.), and consciously decide to take fear and anger out of your decision process and out of your reactions. See how it makes you feel. You will be happier, and the people around you will be happier too. This is because when you react to someone in anger, they will most likely respond back to you in anger. Of course the opposite is also true. If you respond to someone in a kind way, they will most likely respond back to you in a kind way.

Did you ever respond to someone in an angry way just because something else had made you mad? Did you ever wonder how your reaction may have caused that person to react to the next person they encountered? It’s a vicious cycle, but luckily it works both ways. It seems to me, that we are all being a change that can be seen in the world. The question then becomes; are the changes we make affecting the world for better or for worse?

Jewel — Hands (In The End, Only Kindness Matters)


11 Responses to “How To Leave Anger and Loneliness Behind — Choose To Be Happy”

  1. Lady Rose said

    Great post! I love the graphics too.

    I hope you don’t mind I tagged you for a get to know each other type meme (totally voluntary of course)

    Health and Happiness, Lady Rose

  2. Thanks Lady Rose – I’m glad you liked the post. I haven’t had a chance to do a “meme” type thing yet (asked but too busy at the time)…but I will sure give it a try. Thanks for thinking of me.
    By the way…you got a shout out at today –

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  4. liara said

    You make very good points about mind over matter. Many people don’t realize that they often make choices in order to avoid admitting or facing fear. Happiness is but a thought away. I love to empower people to realize they can learn to imagine and evolve into a happier state of mind. I write about this theme on

  5. Hi “Liara” — Thank you for your kind comment. I will check out your blog soon.

  6. I think that is great advice! I think far too often we (myself included) get stuck associating a particular feeling with a certain situation. If it is a fearful or angry response we seem to let it define our reaction to that situation. Consciously being aware of how we are reacting to these situations will help ensure we are not letting fear or anger influence our decisions.

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